Why is saying “good job” not enough?
Hey, it’s Anwell, and this is Soft Power Leaders, by Brantio. We help brilliant women in Biotech and Pharma gain influence.
When you meet a child, what do you usually say?
‘‘That’s such a cute dress!’’ ‘‘He’s adorable!’’
What message does it send?
If the child does anything noteworthy, you’ll hear some form of ‘‘good job!’’
What would happen if, instead of recognizing the outsides, we recognize the insides, the intent? If we say, ‘‘I love the way you tried to wait for your daddy to finish speaking before jumping in. I understand it’s frustrating. I know if you keep trying, you’ll get it!’’
What would happen if we recognized how that influences the rest of the group? If we say, ‘‘By trying so hard, you’ve inspired the kids around us and me to be patient and wait as well. Thank you!’’
This doesn’t apply only to kids.
When’s the last time you received a compliment at work that recognized your insides?
Who could you give a compliment to today that recognizes intent?
Thanks for listening! Now go make it happen.
- Anwell Tsai
Hey, it’s Anwell, and this is Soft Power Leaders, by Brantio. We help brilliant women in Biotech and Pharma gain influence.
When you meet a child, what do you usually say?
‘‘That’s such a cute dress!’’ ‘‘He’s adorable!’’
What message does it send?
If the child does anything noteworthy, you’ll hear some form of ‘‘good job!’’
What would happen if, instead of recognizing the outsides, we recognize the insides, the intent? If we say, ‘‘I love the way you tried to wait for your daddy to finish speaking before jumping in. I understand it’s frustrating. I know if you keep trying, you’ll get it!’’
What would happen if we recognized how that influences the rest of the group? If we say, ‘‘By trying so hard, you’ve inspired the kids around us and me to be patient and wait as well. Thank you!’’
This doesn’t apply only to kids.
When’s the last time you received a compliment at work that recognized your insides?
Who could you give a compliment to today that recognizes intent?
Thanks for listening! Now go make it happen.
- Anwell Tsai
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